We get a lot of questions from readers and clients alike, often. The most commonly themed question is, “Is this alright?” Usually, they’re referring to something they wish to do in their own home, that probably goes against their mother’s great aunt’s sister’s cousin’s dog’s wishes. Because in one way or another, we’ve all been pre-programmed to follow the “rules”. {Whatever those are, because I’m side eyeing some poor design choices circa 1979 and I don’t really think anyone has a right to say anything…}

If we’ve ever said one thing over and over again here, {okay fine, there have been a few mantras} it’s that we love seeing people do the things they love. We really hate it when others are stifled by silly rules of the past, from tablescapes to ceiling colors. Personally, I think our love for creating a home came from a desire to color outside those proverbial lines. I was emboldened to just go for it, at a time in my life when I found all brown glossy furniture circa 2002 Bombay boring and expensive. It may have seemed easy for me, but I assure you, as a lifetime rule follower, it took me a minute to get over myself. 

Life’s short, hang the wallpaper. This is a little reminder that you can do that, too. 

This is your reminder that “The rules” exist so you can break them. If you’re feeling stifled in your own home, here are a few things {big and small} we’ve done in ours that are probably considered a little taboo by some:

Pssst…. while some may not feel very confident in the design category of life, here are a few guidelines for rule-breaking. If it 1. looks intentional 2. makes you happy 3. enhances your home and ultimate well-being…  You can do whatever you want. Bonus if it feels classic, because not everything will, and that’s okay. Yes, these are all small minutiae to consider, because there’s a difference between stifling rules and sound design. 

1. Paint The Piano.
Yep. I’m sure we sent a few piano purists over the top with this one. But “Murphy” as he was aptly named, is a happy old soul, and the center of attention at dinner parties. He looks better in blue. We wouldn’t have it any other way. Whatever piece in your home is holding you back… do something with it that makes you happy. No regrets. 

2. Place the art behind the headboard.
Because sometimes bigger is better. Yes, this may seem trivial. It’s a small rule. Break it. If it doesn’t fit, find a way if it makes you happy. 

3. Build On.
Our home was purchased for the yard, the school system, and the location. Sometimes finding the value in something is creating the perfect home you envision… not finding it. From under 1650 square feet, to over 3700… I don’t think this is considered the “norm”. My point is, sometimes you have to be a little flexible in your way of thinking… even if everyone else thinks you’re crazy at the time…

4. Evolve to the Outside.
Bonus round. Because even though a cabana isn’t for everyone, most houses can have some kind of outside space to fit your needs. No pool necessary. Striped ceilings are a definite yes, but I’m biased. When the space feels a bit small, the outdoors is always the way to go. 

5. Let There be Light.
Don’t have the right windows? Add them. Do what’s right for you in your space. This is basically an entirely different post, but you guys get the gist.

6. Double Up.
This one is small, but believe it or not, it’s more than okay to double up on the rugs… especially when that fireplace is actually kind of perfect in the corner, but presents an intriguing conundrum. {See the looks intentional guideline.} 

7. Short on storage?
Add it. From bookshelves and built ins to cabinets and closets… older houses aren’t exactly known for their storage element. Add your own. 

8. Doors Don’t Have to Swing.
Short on wall {and room} space? Doors can add so much more available space when you need them to. Don’t be afraid to consider pocket doors or the door-on-hardware look; neither is going out of style as long as you choose something fun. 

Another win for the storage department, where we knocked through these walls for more space!

9. Wallpaper and Add Color to Your Home.
Too many people shy away from it out of fear of things they’ve totally made up. We live in color, so you may as well be expressive. It’s your house. Life is short. You could die. Stop overthinking it. Thank you for coming to my Ted Talk.

{While we’re at it, you can be a little bolder with those tile choices, too. You’re allowed, and you won’t tire of it. Promise.}

10. Don’t Forget That Fifth Wall.
Paint the ceiling, add elements like planks, beams, and more. 

Also, you can totally do an accent wall if you want. I saw an “influencerrrrrrrr” get all snarky a few months ago about it on Instagram and no one cares. Do what you want. Stop telling others they can’t. It works well in this room amongst others…

11. Embrace the Imperfect. I’m still guilty of explaining to people my unfinished areas of our house or things that need repair. If they knew the blood, sweat, and tears we have put into this home, and if I could really remind myself, it just doesn’t matter. Everyone is on their own journey, but we will never regret creating a beloved, safe home for our children.

Fun psychology fact of the day: It’s called a “glimmer” when you’re fully in the present, grateful for where you are. {The opposite of a trigger, which I find fascinating, by the way.} I think we can all use a little more of that… imperfections and all. I wasn’t kidding about the death part. Hang the $&^#@* wallpaper. 

Where have you loved breaking the rules in your own home? We hope this inspires you to do whatever you want. We’d love to hear. Have an inspired day!